A practice to de-frazzle your mind and develop a more content and connected life
Shine the Light of Loving Self-Care on Yourself
If you would grow to your best self
Be patient, not demanding
Accepting, not condemning
Nurturing, not withholding
Self-marvelling, not belittling
Gently guiding, not pushing and punishing
For you are more sensitive than you know
Mankind is as tough as war yet delicate as flowers
We can endure agonies but we open fully only to warmth and light
And our need to grow is as fragile as a fragrance dispersed by storms of will
To return only when those storm are still
So, accept, respect, and attend your sensitivity
A flower cannot be opened with a hammer.
By Daniel F. Mead
Essential not only for our physical but also for our emotional and mental well-being
In our fast paced lives we are under more and more pressure and so we are in more need of self-care than ever before. Not only does our society and our cultural background put pressure on us but so do we to ourselves.
We must learn to be kind not only to each other but also to ourselves and practice self-care regularly, without fear or guilt.
Not only do we need enough sleep but we need good quality sleep
Did you know that every single living creature needs sleep? And by need I mean it is crucial for their existence and lack of sleep would actually mean death… But enough of the doom talk. Sleep is a fascinating phenomenon that still baffles scientists all over the world.
Read further if you want to hear some fascinating facts amongst some scientific and practical suggestions to hopefully make you have a good quality rest at night.
What is sleep…
and why do we need it?
Sleep is an important activity we do every day as part of our routine and it can take up as much as one-third of our lifetime. However, it is not only the quantity that is important when looking into our sleep habits but also the quality of our sleep. Doesn’t matter how much time you spend in your bed if the quality of your rest is unsatisfactory.
Ask any mum with a newborn or young child... No wonder, sleep deprivation is used as a torture technique in some places...
It is a fact, that we cannot live without sleep; just like how we cannot go on for long without food or water, sleep is essential for our survival and the quality of our lives. Although, some people wear the ‘lack of sleep’ badge as an honour to prove (to us or to themselves?) that they are incredible human beings and are better than most of us, the lack of sleep and its consequences are shockingly underrated.
I tell you a secret… There might be some super humans who can genuinely survive on 4-5 hours (regular) sleep… BUT scientists have proven that the average person needs at least 8 hours shut eye every day. Additionally, it has also been proven that the consequences of lack of sleep are as serious and dangerous as drinking (and driving). In fact, shockingly, there are more ‘sleep related’ car accidents than those caused by drink-driving.
If you wouldn’t sit behind the driving wheel after a few glasses of wine (or whatever your choice of ‘poison’ is) then why would you do so when you haven’t slept enough?
The real issue is that without sleep we cannot form and maintain the neural pathways in our brain that are necessary for us to learn and create new memories, not to mention how much harder it is to concentrate and respond quickly after a bad night.
Sleep is important to a number of brain functions, including how nerve cells (neurons) communicate with each other. In fact, our brain and body stay remarkably active while you sleep. Recent findings suggest that sleep plays a housekeeping role that removes toxins in your brain that build up while you are awake.
Everyone needs sleep, but its biological purpose remains a mystery. Sleep affects almost every type of tissue and system in the body – from the brain, heart, and lungs to metabolism, immune function, mood, and disease resistance. Research shows that a chronic lack of sleep, or getting poor quality sleep, increases the risk of disorders including high blood pressure, cardiovascular disease, diabetes, depression, and obesity.
Stages of sleep
There are two basic types of sleep which are called (very ‘imaginatively’):
rapid eye movement (REM) sleep and
non-REM sleep (with three different stages).
Each is linked to specific brain waves and neuronal activity. We cycle through all stages of non-REM and REM sleep several times during a typical night, with increasingly longer, deeper REM periods occurring towards the morning.
Stage 1 non-REM sleep is the changeover from wakefulness to sleep. During this short period (lasting several minutes) of relatively light sleep, our heartbeat, breathing, and eye movements slow, while our muscles relax with occasional twitches. Our brain waves begin to slow from their daytime wakefulness patterns.
Stage 2 non-REM sleep is a period of light sleep before we enter deeper sleep. Our heartbeat and breathing slow, and muscles relax even further. Our body temperature drops and eye movements stop. Our brain wave activity slows down but is marked by brief bursts of electrical activity. We spend more of our repeated sleep cycles in stage 2 sleep than in other sleep stages.
Stage 3 non-REM sleep is the period of deep sleep that we need to feel refreshed in the morning. It occurs in longer periods during the first half of the night. Our heartbeat and breathing slow to their lowest levels during sleep. Our muscles are relaxed and it may be difficult to wake us up. Brain waves become even slower.
REM sleep first happens about 90 minutes after we fall asleep. Our eyes move rapidly from side to side behind closed eyelids. Surprisingly, this mixed frequency brain wave activity becomes closer to that seen in wakefulness. Breathing becomes faster and irregular, and our heart rate and blood pressure increase to near waking levels. Most of your dreaming occurs during REM sleep, although some can also occur in non-REM sleep. Your arm and leg muscles become temporarily paralysed, which prevents you from acting out your dreams. As you age, you sleep less of your time in REM sleep. Memory consolidation most likely requires both non-REM and REM sleep.
There are two internal biological mechanisms working together to regulate when we are awake and asleep. These are:
our circadian rhythm and
Circadian rhythms direct a wide variety of functions:
from daily fluctuations in wakefulness
to body temperature,
the release of hormones.
They control our timing of sleep and cause us to be sleepy at night. It also helps us to wake in the morning without an alarm. Our bodies’ biological clock, which is based on a roughly 24-hour day, controls most circadian rhythms. Circadian rhythms synchronise with environmental cues (light, temperature) about the actual time of day, but they continue even in the absence of cues.
2. Sleep-wake homeostasis keeps track of your need for sleep. The homeostatic sleep drive reminds the body to sleep after a certain time and regulates sleep intensity. This sleep drive gets stronger every hour we are awake and causes us to sleep longer and more deeply after a period of sleep deprivation.
Factors that influence our sleep-wake needs include:
sleep environment, and
what you eat and drink.
Perhaps the greatest influence is the exposure to light. Specialised cells in the retinas of our eyes process light and tell the brain whether it is day or night and can advance or delay our sleep-wake cycle. Exposure to light can make it difficult to fall asleep and return to sleep when awakened.
This is why staring at your laptop/ipad or phone before bedtime is so bad.
Night shift workers often have trouble falling asleep when they go to bed, and also have trouble staying awake at work because their natural circadian rhythm and sleep-wake cycle is disrupted.
In the case of jet lag, circadian rhythms become out of sync with the time of day when people fly to a different time zone, creating a mismatch between their internal clock and the actual clock.
13 tips for a good night’s sleep
Like eating well and being physically active, getting a good night’s sleep is vital to our well-being. Here are 13 tips to help us make this possible:
Stick to a sleep schedule.
Go to bed and wake up at the same time each day—even on the weekends.
Exercise is great, but not too late in the day.
Try to exercise at least 30 minutes on most days but not later than 2–3 hours before your bedtime.
Avoid caffeine and nicotine.
The stimulating effects of caffeine in coffee, colas, certain teas, and chocolate can take as long as 8 hours to wear off fully. Nicotine is also a stimulant.
Avoid alcoholic drinks before bed.
A “nightcap” might help you get to sleep, but alcohol keeps you in the lighter stages of sleep. You also tend to wake up in the middle of the night when the sedating effects have worn off.
Avoid large meals and beverages late at night.
A large meal can cause indigestion that interferes with sleep. Drinking too many fluids at night can cause you to awaken frequently to urinate.
Avoid medicines that delay or disrupt your sleep, if possible.
Some commonly prescribed heart, blood pressure, or asthma medications, as well as some over-the-counter and herbal remedies for coughs, colds, or allergies, can disrupt sleep patterns.
Don’t take naps after 3 p.m.
Naps can boost your brain power, but late afternoon naps can make it harder to fall asleep at night. Also, keep naps to under an hour
Relax before bed.
Take time to unwind. A relaxing activity, such as reading or listening to music, should be part of your bedtime ritual.
Take a hot bath before bed.
The drop in body temperature after the bath may help you feel sleepy, and the bath can help you relax.
Have a good sleeping environment.
Get rid of anything in your bedroom that might distract you from sleep, such as noises, bright lights, an uncomfortable bed, or a TV or computer in the bedroom. Also, keeping the temperature in your bedroom on the cool side can help you sleep better.
Have the right sunlight exposure.
Daylight is key to regulating daily sleep patterns. Try to get outside in natural sunlight for at least 30 minutes each day.
Don’t lie in bed awake.
If you find yourself still awake after staying in bed for more than 20 minutes, get up and do some relaxing activity until you feel sleepy. The anxiety of not being able to sleep can make it harder to fall asleep.
See a doctor if you continue to have trouble sleeping.
If you consistently find yourself feeling tired or not well rested during the day despite spending enough time in bed at night, you may have a sleep disorder. Your family doctor or a sleep specialist should be able to help you.